When dealing with the internet, no matter how we have our controls set, we can almost be rest assured, someone outside of our circles will see them.
Now, I post what I post for a various amount of different reasons. I am human. I do error in a lot of ways.
We all judge in one way or another.
You saw that cute picture posted, (you know the one you can relate to). So you click like and share it. Then someone who has never been in your shoes, posts a stupid comment.
You saw a funny picture of someone being stupid. You click like and share. Then you get a few likes and shares off of that.
What are we doing? We're judging what we like, what we think is funny, what we think is disgusting but yet so hilarious we must show everyone.
You do a rant. Some people understand, some don't. Those who don't accuse you of being too judgemental. That's funny, becuase isn't that what you just did? You judged me because I judged someone else?
Sorry teens, crying over a pair of designer jeans your parents refuse to get you. That's not stress nor is it the end of the world. Crying over because you don't have the latest Iphone. Whatever. I don't have an Iphone and don't care to own one.
There is 99% of the time I put what I put for a reason. I made a post about how people handle stress. When you say everyone handles stress differently, I agree. But, come one, it's not stress when the sole's of your shoes get wet.
That day, when I posted the daily's of stress, was someone emailed me complaining about how their spouse bought them a single rose instead of a dozen. I listened to them rant about it for an hour. (I was doing other things in the meantime, of course). But, then a friend of mine, she wanted prayers sent because she was diagnosed with cancer. So, please go on about how cheap your spouse is. Here's a person who may not live to see next year, (if they're lucky) and you're stressing over because you got one rose.
I don't put all my woes out there. I have more than most. (We'll leave it at that) So, yes, it does bother me when somone whines and complains about stupid crap.
I threw a party. I invited a lot of people. Many RSVP'd with saying they were bringing guests. I rented a hall, enough food to feed an army and less than twenty show up out of a thousand. Money wasted on renting the hall and buying all that food. I didn't stress. We still had a great time.
Here's something you may not know. I was once living out of my car with my child. So, when someone says and complains about how they're complaining their house is a mess. They have a house to mess.
There is a difference between judging and stating the facts. Yes, everyone handles stress differently. What we may not see as stress, doesn't mean that it's not stressful for someone else. However, there is also a difference between complaining about the small crap in life. So what, if you're shoes are two years old? They still fit right? They're not falling apart, are they? No?
We live in a throw away society. Back in my day, we used it to the last possible second. I had shoes that the soles were falling off. I put some crazy glue on them, and they were good for another month. I had a pair of shoes - (True story) I was out with grandma and we were walking. I heard a clop-clop-clop. I stopped and looked around. Didn't see anything and the clopping stopped. The next step I took, the sole completely fell off. Wouldn't have been that bad, if they weren't semi-platform shoes. I was walking around the rest of the day like that. Everyone was laughing. Was I embarrassed? Oh, yeah. However, I picked up the sole and joked about it.
The moral? I had that pair for over ten years. I didn't throw them away and upgrade them because they were "old".
Too many people care about what other people think. I don't care what you think. I do what I believe is in the best interest of my family and myself. I don't care if I have the latest and greatest. If it works, it means I don't have to spend money on something new, that I'm not going to get the life expectancy out of, anyways.
I'm proud to say I've owned something for years and it still works. No matter what or when you buy it, the "shininess" fades. Who cares? If it works for what you need it for - who cares what someone else has.
Having a brand new car is nice. However, think about this. When you see someone driving around in a new car versus your old sedan. They may have a high car payment. You have none. Sure, you have to throw some money into it. But unlike them, you don't have to worry about making a monthly payment.
Here's another true story. I walked into a dealership and bought a brand new pickup right off the showroom floor. Less than a month later it was in the shop. It was continously in the shop after that. I was making payments on a brand new car (not to have to worry about it being in the shop), and it was. Compared to the one who drove the older sedan who hardly saw the inside of the shop and had no payments.
When you judge others, you judge yourself. I am guilty of it, as much as you are. When you submit a query letter to a publisher, they are judging your work. They'll say it's not what they are looking for. (Now, don't worry, they don't even know what they want or are looking for)
When you apply for a job. You have someone half your age, quizzing you. (Anyone else find that ironic?)
We judge congress by saying they make too much. (You can't say we don't) Is it true? Yes. They make more than they should. That is a fact. However we are still judging.
To sit there and say you don't judge, I laugh. I bet I can go through your wall and find posts you've judged someone else on. Just because you've never heard of it, doesn't mean that it's not true.
When someone says - if you can't afford your kids, don't have them. Wow! Look at what that person is wearing? Did you see what that person did? That person clearly saw what was going on and didn't say anything. Maybe, maybe not. Again, it may seem like an opinion, but it's also passing judgement.
Remember, if I stand in the garage, I'm not a mechanic.
If I go to church, I'm not anymore a Christian than someone who never goes to church.
If I sit and listen to my friends problems, I'm not a therapist.
I have been there, (in most cases), I have seen more than most. When I speak, I speak from personal experience. Many don't know that because I don't broadcast my personal life.
Opinions are judgements. You may not agree with something, and that's your judgement for your opinion to disagree.
It's those with closed minds who don't see other viewpoints, other than their own.
